today was so so. dealing with a close friend, coach, mentor, role model dying, is no walk in the park. I knew this day was going to come. I knew what I was getting into when I first met Coach B. He’s been dealing with this cancer for about a year now. The first bought he fought with it, was 13 years ago. Prostate cancer is how it started. Coach B, or better know as Bassa, is one of the most amazing ‘old timers’ I’ve met in a really long time. He’s one of those types of people who just tell ya like it is. And yeah, sometimes the truth hurts people. Fortunately Coach B was easy for me to impress. He liked coaching me, and I liked pleasing him. Then again, I’m not your average, ordinary girl when it comes to hanging with the boys in the gym. I have the body of a boy, and the mouth of a boy.
I feel honoured that I’m one of the only people allowed to visit Bassa in his last days. He doesn’t want to deal with most company anymore. I noticed his toe nails were very long today while we sat in the living room and chatted with the family. All four of his daughters were there. I’ve come to see them as sisters. Can’t recall many other times in my past where I felt so connected with a family so quickly. The icon of the family unit. All the grandkids playing together, all the daughters (I haven’t met the one son yet) sitting around with the mum….
Anyway, I drove with two granddaughters to the chemist and bought some finger nail files. Got back to the house and Bassa had gone to bed. I felt very humbled and content that Bassa allowed me to file down his toe nails while he slept. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be for him to be loosing control of his body, his will and his life so quickly. At age 73, this man was dead lifting 230 kilos. He’s only 75 today. Since we stopped training about 2 months ago, I’ve felt a tad lost in the gym without him. It’s hard to go through the process of death. Those stages you pass through; denial, anger, pain/guilt, depression, the upward turn, reconstruction, and finally hope…. they’re all ones you feel.
At the moment, I’m just thankful that I got to work with such an amazing, upstanding, honest, hard working, good natured, charismatic, loving person for a short period of time.
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